Respect Before You Speak Or Type.
Please show respect before you speak or type anything online! As Americans we not only have the right to free speech, but we also hold the responsibility of treating others with respect. We are better than that!
How many times have you felt like you:
- had to be cautious of what you said out loud?
- should be careful of what you post online, especially Facebook?
- needed to scroll past posts because you knew if you commented, you would be verbally attacked?
- it was time to unfollow family/friends because you just didn’t want to see “it” anymore?
Sound familiar? When you step back and look at the whole picture, it is rather sad. The amount of negativity and drama that is shared online every day. I personally avoid drama-big time. I have no room for it in my life and it serves no purpose.
Since when did everyone become, judge, jury, and executioner?
Creating content is one task that can be very tricky to compose it in a way that won’t be offensive or end up being taken out of context can be very complex. With that being said, I have to be me and point out the obvious that everyone seems to be going out of there way to avoid. As I said earlier, as Amercian citizens, we have the right to free speech. That, however, does not mean we should verbally voice negativity against others. Frankly, it is infuriating to watch and read. So many times, I would love to jump in and ask what gives them the right to be so harsh, name call and criticize one’s character, physical appearance, opinion, or anything else for that matter. As it was said, “He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone.”
People who tend to voice their “opinion”, seem to forget that they are not perfect. No one is! We all should strive to do better and treat others as we would want to be treated. Posters may have a valid point and the right to be heard but how you go about it shows a side of you that may not show your true character. Most of us would not want to be judged on one incident.
For example, I follow local newspapers or pages that are local to my area. They talk about road accidents, things going on around the city, someone has a missing dog, etc. I read the comments because they usually include updates from the time it was posted. I tend to find over half of the comments are bashing of some kind. What happened to the original post? It has been taken over by commentary that frankly doesn’t belong there.
Whether you agree or disagree with me is fine. We can discuss it like mature adults without all the drama. In fact, I welcome a difference of an opinion because I want to know and understand someone else’s viewpoint. We can debate about it in a healthy way without it getting all kinds of ugly. If you want to debate, just have the facts ready.
I do notice that many who are guilty of the drama side of things do not have all the facts. This is where personal responsibility plays a major role, doing your own homework and fact checking before entering into a discussion like this. Typically there are two sides to every story, but as history has shown, there are in fact three. There are each other’s versions and then there is the truth. Everyone seems to have their own version of that. How many times do you wish you had a recorded a conversation because the other party denies ever saying XYZ? I know I have!
Whether you are on Facebook or anywhere for that matter, treating others with RESPECT should be automatic. By being negative or verbally attacking someone, what does it really accomplish? As the saying goes, don’t talk about religion or politics because it is sure to lead to an argument. Statistics show this happens a lot over a holiday meal. It doesn’t have to be this way.
Having an online business also requires responsibility on my part on the image I uphold. Would I love to voice my two cents? You bet I would. I don’t. We as individuals and as Americans, need to take a second look at how we conduct ourselves first. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Especially when it comes to online and social media. Why? Because it is the right thing to do. This country as a whole has steered so far away from that entire concept, We need to get back to that and so much more. Self Improvement is a good place to start.
I personally don’t post anything I would not want my 88-year-old mother to read. Yes, my mom is on Facebook. Often times, she will ask what is wrong and why did (Person A) post that. What is the meaning of it? Now, when I have to do damage control on my adult children, you bet I will. Parenting never stops. If I have to answer for it, so do they. Yes, they have the right to “their opinion” but it doesn’t make it right and they should know better. Most times, I tell my mom to keep scrolling and ignore it. As I think many of us should. Think about it, it may just bring some peace at least for the moment.
“Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates:
Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?” ― A Sufi Saying
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- Better Customer 24/7 Support
I am going to be totally honest here. SiteGround Hosting was not my first choice. I have used a variety of website builders and hosting companies over the years. GoDaddy, Hostgator, IPage, and BlueHost to name a few. Now all are good depending on what services are most important to you. Customer Service is huge for me.
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They Are Not All Created Equal!
The Female Entrepreneur Association’s Members’ Club is an incredible group of female entrepreneurs and it’s helped me to grow my business so much that I wanted to tell you about it in case you’re looking for extra support in your business. Enrollment is actually closed for the group, but for this month only I’m allowed to invite my friends to join! Joining the Female Entrepreneur Association was one of best decisions I’ve made for my business. For me, it was actually about surrounding myself with like-minded women who are driven, have passion and a positive mindset.
Why I Chose To Join.
Through the years I have collected guidelines, cheatsheets, and classes that were all free. The folders on my desktop are full of PDF’s, ebooks and swipe files. We won’t get into the numerous binders and files on my desk that I use for quick reference. In short, I am THE Wahm Addict! I just love resources! Which is why the FEA was a great fit.
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The Facebook Group
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